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The Parent Blog

DCiAdmin

Always room to learn a bit more
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#41
The young are so blindly innocent. It's possible to do anything, be anything, when you're small because you still haven't been told you cannot.
 

Twitch6000

Person Of All Kinds
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#42
Telling a young child no is extremely difficult.. Learned that when my partner babysat her nieces... She says i'm a pushover
 

Twitch6000

Person Of All Kinds
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#45
Especially if it's a word that is not in the childs vocabulary... :caution:
No should always be in their vocabulary. But when a little girl comes up to you and asks something like can I have a cookie or can I have a hug... how can one say no lol?
 

driver_ian

In at the Deep End...
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#47
No should always be in their vocabulary. But when a little girl comes up to you and asks something like can I have a cookie or can I have a hug... how can one say no lol?
At the risk of getting labelled a Paedophile...:caution:
A distressed child in need of a hug would not be denied.... however requests for cookies might just be discouraged...
 

DCiAdmin

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#51
I've been remiss. My children have kept me busy enough that I've been living and not blogging.

My daughter has had her school permit (15 years old and driving solo!) for almost 7 months. I'm pleased to say that it has been a very uneventful 7 months. She survived a Midwestern winter without a scratch on her or the car. I have learned something really important in teaching her though. Patience is key - I knew that but reinforcement helps me learn :) Also, empty campgrounds during the winter are a Great place to take skidding practice. According to the driving instructor, the 4000+ miles that we put on the car during 2014's summer vacation wasn't a bad idea either. My daughter probably drove about 1/3 of them.

It's amazing what you can learn from your kids if you take the time to listen. They don't always say things in sentences, or even to your face. But actions, bringing friends around, and showing respect to "elders" says a lot!

I took a chance a few weeks back. I scheduled a last minute overnight trip to another state with my son. My daughter had obligations that would keep her home for the night. Alone at home for the night. I remember being 15 with my parents out of town. I knew where the liquor cabinet was, I knew (sort of) how to mix a drink, and I had phone numbers for my friends. But my daughter isn't me, and it was time to give her the benefit of the doubt. She made it to work on time (volunteer job, no pay), called me when she got home, and called me the next day before heading to church. Church! Not a friend's house, not a party at my house, but off to church. I don't know how I've been so fortunate, but something has worked out well for me. The time spent traveling with my son was put to good use also. We took the driving hours to become reacquainted. He's a pretty amazing 13 year old; very out of the box. My lesson from this? I need to not assume, not take the kids for granted, and believe in the good every now and then. I might just be surprised.
 

Cameldung

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#52
I've been remiss. My children have kept me busy enough that I've been living and not blogging.

My daughter has had her school permit (15 years old and driving solo!) for almost 7 months. I'm pleased to say that it has been a very uneventful 7 months. She survived a Midwestern winter without a scratch on her or the car. I have learned something really important in teaching her though. Patience is key - I knew that but reinforcement helps me learn :) Also, empty campgrounds during the winter are a Great place to take skidding practice. According to the driving instructor, the 4000+ miles that we put on the car during 2014's summer vacation wasn't a bad idea either. My daughter probably drove about 1/3 of them.

It's amazing what you can learn from your kids if you take the time to listen. They don't always say things in sentences, or even to your face. But actions, bringing friends around, and showing respect to "elders" says a lot!

I took a chance a few weeks back. I scheduled a last minute overnight trip to another state with my son. My daughter had obligations that would keep her home for the night. Alone at home for the night. I remember being 15 with my parents out of town. I knew where the liquor cabinet was, I knew (sort of) how to mix a drink, and I had phone numbers for my friends. But my daughter isn't me, and it was time to give her the benefit of the doubt. She made it to work on time (volunteer job, no pay), called me when she got home, and called me the next day before heading to church. Church! Not a friend's house, not a party at my house, but off to church. I don't know how I've been so fortunate, but something has worked out well for me. The time spent traveling with my son was put to good use also. We took the driving hours to become reacquainted. He's a pretty amazing 13 year old; very out of the box. My lesson from this? I need to not assume, not take the kids for granted, and believe in the good every now and then. I might just be surprised.
We have found when it come to passing down values the apples don't fall far from the tree. Sounds like you've done well Mum:D
 

DCiAdmin

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#53
We have found when it come to passing down values the apples don't fall far from the tree. Sounds like you've done well Mum:D
Thank you, CD. It's been very scary trying this on my own, but durned rewarding to see my daughter become the blessing that she has proven to be. The jury is still out on the son ;)